Our Perception is our reality. The rule of the house stands, (this has always been my house rule), if you take or think what someone else says to you in a negative matter, you need to have the courage to ask them, what they meant, because this is how you took it. It's a very hard rule for people to live by, because you have to have the courage to ask. If this were the rule of thumb of our lives each day, there would be way more positive outcomes.